Dear 16-Year-Old Me: Irish Musician Fears

"Things are going to get weird and dark, but they’re also going to get exciting and wonderful."

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Each week, we chat to some of our favourite well-known people about what they’d say to their teenage-self. They get open and honest about what their teens were like and share the advice they’d give for the future.

This week, it’s singer, musician and producer Fears. The Irish star has repeatedly been named as one-to-watch in the music industry.

Fears has just released ‘vines’, out now.

In her letter, she speaks about awkwardness, learning to be okay with taking up space, and achieving her dreams.
“Dear 16 year old me,

First of all, you’re doing great. You’ve had a weird year but you’ve managed. You’ve started at a new school, and you’re still figuring out where you fit, but most importantly you’re connecting with yourself and your passions.

You care a lot. About everything. That’s not going anywhere anytime soon. It’s a good thing, it drives you and helps you create. This is what’s going to get you through some of the things that will happen over the next 10 years. It’s also going to be what brings you amazing opportunities and people. Hold on to it and believe in it.

You don’t have to judge yourself so harshly. One way of easing that is separating people’s view of your worth from your actual worth. I wish I knew that. A boy you love is going to use it against you and it will almost break you except it won’t because you have the most wonderful family and friends who will help you piece yourself back together. You’ll also learn boys aren’t the only option! Woo!

I’m not going to lie to you Connie, things are going to get weird and dark, but they’re also going to get exciting and wonderful. You know your favourite band? Yeah you’re going to end up working with them in around 9 years. I know, it’s insane. Except it won’t be insane, because you’ll have earned your way there.

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You’ll reach a point where asking for things isn’t awkward or weird. You’ll stop feeling like an inconvenience and instead feel like an asset. It’s not going to be smooth sailing or a straight line, but I promise there will be a point where sending a follow-up email won’t make you curl up into a ball. You’re a woman and that’s wonderful. You’re entitled to occupy space just as much as lads. Some of them aren’t going to like that, but you’ll do it anyway.

If there’s one thing I have to tell you, it’s this: keep making stuff. Anything. Clothes, food, music, journals, photos, radio shows, films, venues, gigs, anything. Keep creating from your heart and your brain, and you’ll connect with who you are. At least half of it will be not great and never see the light of day, but that’s not the point. It will comfort you at your lowest points. You will comfort you at your lowest points. And you’ll be okay.”

‘Vines’ is out now.


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