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Each week, we chat to some of our favourite well-known people about what they’d say to their teenage-self. They get open and honest about what their teens were like and share the advice they’d give for the future.
This week, we’re chatting to twin sisters Lou and Ro, better known as pop duo ROOUE! The girls have been singing together since they could walk they released their debut single What You Want in October.
This time around, each of the girls wrote their own letter about everything from loving music from a young age, to moving from London to Ireland in their pre-teens.
“Dear 16-year-old Ro,
You are inching to become a grown-up and to take life by its horns and become a full-time singer. Nothing goes through your brain in your last classes as you are imaging getting back into your room to play your guitar and to have a fat sing to Katy Perry in the car on your way home.
The best part of being a teenager for you was the ability to see friends and family every day. Although every day was hard with the constant battle of exams and social pressure, it was all worth it to go to your lockers and see your best friends, the only people you thought would ever understand how you felt. Supporting friends through hard times and expressing yourself through writing was your coping tool for your life, but this was fundamental in you becoming the person you are today, so don’t be embarrassed about this.
Moving countries at a young age was terrifying. From going to a huge mixed school in London city where kids seemed to be acting as adults at the age of 10. To Dalkey, in a tiny school with only 5 girls in a class (including me and Lou). It took you a very long time to fit in with you strong Londoner accent and your different life experiences. It took time but once you made it through you made the best memories and the best friends you could ever ask for. This experience was a key in you finding your confidence and being okay with not always fitting in.
School was a crazy ride. You never felt that you knew how to express yourself academically. You could play any song on the piano, but algebra and Spanish were another story. You were absolutely blessed to be in a school that you had great friends and teachers that supported you. Although you never quite felt that you were like the people around you, when you get to college you will learn that this will be the thing you love about yourself.
When you grow up it will all be a lot clearer. Music becomes your LIFE and you will absolutely love it. You will in time get the opportunity to express yourself freely with no fear and your dreams will slowly become reachable.
A lot has changed, and this is for the best! I know change is scary and sometimes you want to cling ono stuff that is safe, but change is good and is exactly what you need.
The thing that never changes is the love and support you will receive from friends and family, hold on to this, nothing is more important.
My biggest piece of advice to my teen self would be to stop trying to fit in, don’t apologise for being different. Sometimes it’s okay to not feel okay all the time, look after yourself and the people around you and enjoy every moment.
“Dear 16-year-old Lou
As a teen you were so desperate for a sense of responsibility and control of your life, waking up in the morning to go to school and not spend the day playing music seemed impossible and relentless. But things get better and that sense of drive to get out of school is nothing but positive don’t get disheartened.
The best part of being a teen was the never-ending fun times with the girls you meet in secondary school, these days are ones to cherish, you have the most amazing best friends enjoy every second together. The never-ending drama of social scenes and life are bearable when you have each other by your sides.
The hardest part about being a teen was the lack of confidence you had in yourself, constantly allowing yourself to be compared to others. Your authenticity is amazing and what makes you you. When you go to college everyone will love you for who you are not the clothes you wear and the relationship status you clung so hard to keep even if it made you unhappy.
School for you was challenging, never-ending days of classes that don’t mean anything to you can be difficult, but your amazing friends make everything worth it.
When you grow up it will all be easier, I promise things start to make more sense you find people that are just like you and influence you to be yourself and find love of all the things that make you you. Music starts to feel like a safe place again and you will find the confidence you lost.
Honestly, everything has changed but in the best way possible. Moving from London City to Dublin was the best thing to ever happen to you, a new beginning was exactly what you needed. Although the little English accent that you carry with you still to this day makes you seem an outsider it actually is what makes you you and is proof of a fantastic journey. You find yourself musically and discover that, at the end of the day, all you needed was to believe in yourself.
What has not changed is your family and friends, you are so lucky to have the people that you have in your life right now and the ones to soon be met.
My biggest piece of advice to my teen self would be to stop stressing, you wasted so much anxiety on the small things, as soon as you learn to let go and have fun and be happy with yourself everything starts to feel easier.