An extract from You’ve Got This by Tammy Darcy…
Over the past few years, there has been loads of talk all over the world about what it means to be a woman, what we can and can’t do, what we are or are not worth and how we value ourselves and each other. It’s been a revolution, and things are starting to change.We still aren’t paid equally, and we don’t have enough representation when it comes to making big decisions that affect all our lives.
However, we are starting to speak up and work together to create change, which is a really positive thing. We don’t all have to agree with each other or see eye to eye, but we do need to make sure that each and every one of us feels heard and valued, and we must defend each other’s right to have choices.
1. Be Selfless
Don’t just get hung up on the issues that concern you and your life personally. All our issues are interconnected on some level or other, and if we all worry about everyone having equal opportunities, we all have more power. Think about your sisters, your schoolmates, your future daughters, if you choose to have them. Fight for what we all deserve, not just what you feel you deserve, and know that others are fighting for you too.
2. Learn About The Issues
Education is power. Know the facts. Look at an argument, try to understand both sides and form your own views. You don’t have to agree with everyone, but you doneed to be able to defend and explain your own opinions.
3. Speak Up
Your voice is your biggest tool. Call people out on their behaviour. Don’t let people speak over you because you’re young or female, or for any other reason. If someone makes a comment that is inappropriate, calmly explain it to them. They’ll get it eventually.
4. Build Yourself Up
Confidence doesn’t come overnight,but work on it. You are not a second-class citizen, no matter what anyone else says or thinks. You are a unique and beautiful person with as much right to take up space and be heard as anyone else.
5. Build Up Other Women and Girls
For some reason, wegirls often see the negative in each other. Let’s change thatand focus on the positive in every woman around us. Tell them they’re special and beautiful, and smart and worthy. We are notin competition with each other. We can all succeed. Let’s support each other.
You’ve Got This! is a book by Tammy Darcy, founder of The Shona Project.
Like a good friend, the book helps improve self-esteem, stimulate positive thinking and build resilience, while encouraging you to see your amazing potential. Find out why your differences are your superpowers, own them, and learn to shine! Available now in bookshops and online.