There are few better feelings than getting together with your crush – everything is exciting, fresh, and you feel as if you have butterflies in your stomach 24/7. But when it doesn’t work out, and either you break up with them or they break up with you, it can sometimes feel as if you’ll never get over it. Sometimes it just doesn’t work, ties need to be cut or the ups and downs were all a bit too much. So here’s how you can help yourself get over that breakup.
A little distance is ideal
If you still like someone, even the tiniest bit, hanging around with them all of the time really isn’t going to help matters. The more attention you pay to you ex s/o, the harder it will be to get over them. You may have to see them in school (when school is back to normal, that is), but that doesn’t mean you have to scroll through IG and Twitter with their posts popping up constantly. You don’t have to unfollow them, but press that good old mute button to give yourself a little time to heal.
Make like Sean Paul and get busy. The more you lay about, the more your thoughts are going to wander back to your relationship and you might even find yourself wondering if the right decision has been made. So whatever your favourite things to do are, get to it. Whether that’s diving into a new season of Queer Eye or organising your wardrobe. Of course, once the lockdown measures have been lifted it’ll be easier to keep busy. But for now? You’ll have to do your best and get creative!
Don’t try to rush things
Getting over someone can take time, simply because those pesky feelings of ours can pop up at any time, with no explanation at all. But it’s essential to not rush yourself into getting over your relationship. Firstly, acknowledge your feelings. It’s perfectly normal to be upset over this, so just let yourself be upset for as long as you need. Don’t try to rush the process, just let it happen and over time you’ll be able to look back and realise that you’re so over that relationship now.
Remember that you broke up for a reason
If you’re missing someone, it can be almost easy to forget the reason why you broke up in the first place. But once you find yourself missing your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s important to remember exactly why you broke up, and realise that there’s a reason you shouldn’t be together. We’re not going to preach to you that there’s plenty more fish in the sea, but you’ll definitely get over this breakup. Even if it feels like it will take forever, we swear it won’t. Go you, you’ve got this!