Just a month ago you couldn’t be any closer with your best friend, now you just can’t seem to see eye to eye on pretty much anything. Friendship fallouts are totally normal and happens to pretty much everyone at least once in their life. Here’s our advice on coping with the dreaded fallout, and the best way to go about fixing it.
You’ve Got A New Boyfriend Or Girlfriend
After weeks of flirting and countless Snapchats you’ve finally bagged yourself the boy of your dreams, and you can’t wait to show him off to one of the most important people in your world – your BFF. It sounds like the perfect scenario, right? Unforch, it turns out your bestie is less than happy for you and your new beau. So how do you keep your mate without losing your hot new date?
Well, first and foremost, make her see that she’s still your best friend and nothing and no one is going to change that. Make time for the two of you to go shopping, get lunch, or just chill out and indulge in some Netflix. During this time, try to avoid blabbing about your new fella or gal, and try to talk about the stuff you used to talk about before they came along, (the newest Stranger Things episode, whether Justin Bieber and Hailey will last, you get the gist) and make her see that you’re still the same person you always were. Also, you need to realise that she may be jealous, especially if you are all loved up and her crush doesn’t even know her name. Introduce her to your fella’s friends, she may be so distracted by his hurling team’s full forward that your new relationship suddenly won’t bother her anymore. Sweet. If she’s still intent on hating your new boy or girl, consider her reasons. Does he or she ignore her when she’s around? Do they expect you to cancel your regular Saturday shopping trips to be with them? Friends can be very intuitive, so maybe have a chat with her about how she’s feeling and take on board any opinions she might have.
She’s Moved Schools
You spent most of August planning your return to school. You bought gorge new stationary, some barely-there make-up (to fool the principal) and a fab new Fjallraven Backpacks backpack. This term, however, you’re going to be without a very important part of your school day coz your BFF has moved to a new school!
This is the worst thing that could happen, right? Well, not exactly. Okay, so you’re gonna have to adjust to life without her, but there are some things you can do to make sure that your friendship survives the change. During your first few weeks of term, snap her regularly to make sure she’s settling in okay. Fill her in on all the goss from home, but try not to say anything that’ll make her feel like she’s missing out. And look on the bright side, not only do you have a whole new group of girls and lads to meet, haven’t you heard of a little thing called FaceTime? With some extra effort from both you, you should be able to remain BFF’s for years to come.
You’ve Had A Massive Row
Whether it’s something trivial like whether Jake and Tana’s marriage is real, or something more serious, having a row with your BFF is horrible. But, you can wallow in self-pity in front of the telly all night… or do something. Think about the argument you’ve had. She’s completely wrong, yeah? Maybe, but isn’t it possible that you were out of order, too? Everybody argues, but sometimes you have to swallow your pride and apologise first. Sure, it can be tough, but be the bigger person and you’ll feel better for it. You can always make it clear that it upset you and that you’re hurt, but acknowledge that the friendship isn’t worth ruining over it!
Once you’re back on speaking terms don’t bring up the subject again. Wait until the fight is well forgotten about before joking about it. And above all, DON’T throw it back in her face the next time you have a row!
She’s Hanging Out With A New Crowd
Once upon a time, people couldn’t tell you and your bestie apart and her folks even called you their ‘adopted daughter’. Ah, good times. These days she’s wearing more eyeliner than Amy Winehouse and hanging with a whole new group of friends. She’s gone from being your twin to a total stranger. What the hell, right?!
Time to take a chill pill lady. Sure your friend might be changing but this doesn’t have to be a bad thing. And it certainly doesn’t mean your friendship is over. While you might feel awkward around her new mates, don’t let it get you down. If you act open and friendly and don’t see them as enemies things will be a whole lot easier.
If you’re feeling lonely, it’s time for some damage control. Have you always wanted to take up horse riding or dance classes? Join a club and make new friends of your own. During your school years you’re likely to mix with different groups of people every once in a while. Everyone is trying to develop their own style, but stay true to yourself and she’ll once again see you for the fab individual you are.