Okay, so you’re looking to up your kissing game – good for you!
You might be completely new to the world of smooching and eager to gather as many tips as possible before you go in for your first kiss, or maybe you’re fairly well acquainted with it by now but still open to learning more ticks. Either way, there’s something to take from this.
It’s important not to sweat the small stuff when it comes to kissing. Getting the shift should be fun and not something you need to build up too much pressure around being ‘perfect’ for. In a few years from now, the hype you might feel around kissing will be a distant memory, so remind yourself of that.
In the meantime, here’s some advice to take your shifts to that next level.
Kiss The Right Person
The first step in having the perfect kiss is kissing the right person. If you’re feeling peer pressured into kissing someone, or doing it just for the sake of it, chances are, it’s not going to be too much fun for either of you. Instead, only kiss the people you actually want to kiss yourself, and who want to kiss you back.
We speak a lot about consent here on KISS, and that can be put to practice when it comes to kissing someone. Firstly, you must consent, and the person you’re kissing needs to be on board with what’s happening too. If you’re looking for pointers on how to pick up on someone being interested in kissing you or not, check this out.
It’s probably basic etiquette, but if you can, try to keep your breath as fresh as possible. If you’re heading out on a date, to a disco, or meeting up with friends and think there’s a chance that you might lock lips with someone, carry along some chewing gum or mints. Simply pop one in when you feel like you need to and voila, you’ll leave the person you kiss with something to remember you by – and it’s not the smell of garlic!
Follow Their Lead
If you’re unsure what to do when you’re kissing someone else, that’s okay, just copy them. If they slow down, you should slow down too, if they try different movements with their lips or tongue, you could try the same. Both people are in control of a kiss, so never feel like you need to come up with something different just for the sake of it.
Bonus tip: if you’re comfortable with the person you’re kissing, ask what they like. Maybe they’re more of a slow and passionate kisser, or maybe they prefer less tongue and more lips, chat to one another what you enjoy and work from there.
Pick The Right Setting
If you’re surrounded by friends cheering as you smooch, or are in the middle of a soggy green with mud on your shoes, chances are, your kiss probably won’t be too memorable – or at least memorable for the right reasons. Instead, try to choose the most appropriate setting. Why not organise a cinema date where the two of you can have a quick kiss when the lights go down, or sit down on a bench together and lock lips for a little while. Put some thought into where you’re kissing and the rest will come easy.
Don’t Go Overboard
Some general don’t when it comes to kissing is to not go in too fast or forcefully, and to never lead with tongue. It’s key to start off kissing slowly first, you can begin with some slow pecks with your lips to begin with, eventually building it up to more. By beginning slowly you can draw out the pleasure, if you both want it, tongue can then be introduced gently, trying different motions at a slow pace.
As you continue to kiss you can eventually play around with a different rhythm, jumping from slow and controlled to more energetic movements. If you eventually become bored of just old regular lip on lip kissing you could try playing around with showing other areas on the face some love too, you could kiss their neck, ear, or cheek, working up to a kiss on the lips.