Yes, the phrase “boys may come and go, but friends stay forever” may be true, but that doesn’t mean you can sit back, relax and enjoy the company of your mates without a care in the world. Just like any partnership, a friendship needs to be cared for and worked at or you run the risk of ruining it forever. And you don’t want that, now do you? Your friends don’t have to stick around, so make sure you keep them, and be the best friend you can be, by never breaking the following five rules.
It Should Be About Trust
Trust – where would we be without it? In a sad and sorry place, that’s where! Most of the time we associate the importance of trust with a boyfriend but it’s also such a necessary ingredient with friends, too. If you can’t trust your friend, or she can’t trust you, then you have a major problem that needs urgent fixing. Any sort of relationship worth keeping is based on trust and if you betray that trust you could ruin a friendship forever. Whether that means you can trust your friends with your deepest secrets, or trusting them to have your back at all times.
Compliment Them, In Every Way
While it’s always nice to tell your friend that they’re looking fab, this isn’t what we mean when we use the word ‘complement’. Being a really good friends means bringing out the best in someone as much as you can. Saying that, they should also bring out the best in you, so you both complement each other perfectly.
They Can Count On You
Just like trust, reliability plays a huge part in a friendship, but unfortunately, it’s one of the easiest rules to break. It’s easy to think, “Sarah’s always been there for me, she won’t mind if I let her down this one time”. However, more often than not, one time turns into one too many, and before you know it you’re taking complete advantage of your friend’s good nature. The truth of the matter is, when you let your friends down you make them feel unimportant and that can be very hurtful. Have your friends stopped asking you to go out? Do they look annoyed when you turn up late or try to give them some reason as to why you were a no-show? If yes, then you’re in danger of losing some mates. If you’re not sure, just ask them, but be prepared for the answer!
It’s Not All About You, You, You
Okay, so maybe your parents are driving you mad, you failed your maths exam and you broke a nail, all in the one day – but that doesn’t mean the world revolves around you. As a friend,you still need to remember that everyone has problems and being part of a friendship is all about the give and take. But if you’re a constant taker and your friend the giver, sooner or later this one-way street is going to come to a dead end. Even if you don’t think you’re guilty of this little crime, it’s always a good idea to try observing your friendships like an outsider. Are you always the one doing the talking/complaining/crying? You might blame it on you just “being chatty” but it would also be that your friend’s not able to get a word in edgeways. Don’t lose a friendship because you’re so caught up in what you have to say.
Treat Them As You Wish To Be Treated
The most important rule of all and the most simple to follow, so we would think! We all have very specific ideas of what a good friend should be but that doesn’t necessarily mean we follow them ourselves. If you want to be a really good friend, then you need to put yourself through the same tests you would a mate. If you pass with flying colours then you’re probably blessed with fab friends in return. If however, you don’t do too well, it might be time to start changing the way you treat those around you. It’s never too late to improve the way we act or think. Start by smiling, being confident and treating others with respect and soon everything else will fall into place, including friends that will last you forever.