Picture the scene. You’re figuring out a way to get out of the most boring family do ever when in walks the boy that all your dreams are made of. A dead ringer for Niall Horan, your heart races and you’re instantly into him.
As he stops to chat to your cousin, he glances in your direction and smiles. Now is the time to make your move, strike up a conversation and have him fall head over heels for you too… no pressure! Of course, flirting can be really tricky and it’s hard not to feel silly, but we’re talking about doing it in a way that is smart and self-assured.
It will come to no surprise to KISS readers that confidence is always at the top of our list when it comes to getting what you want. And it’s the number one tool in flirting too. If you’re happy and confident with yourself, you send out some ‘I’m deadly’ vibes. People like to be around those who are fun to be around, and the positivity will rub off on them too. Make a note of what you do when you’re in the best mood, do you smile a lot? Hold your head high? Are you more relaxed? Try applying these to social situations when you’re trying to develop some confidence. This way, when a guy or girl walks into the room and you want to catch their eye, you know how to hold yourself to seem like you know what you’re doing (even if you don’t!).
Make the first move
If you want to meet someone sometimes you have to put yourself out there a little more. This means making the first move. Yep, probably scarier than watching ‘It’ on your own but it could be worth it. When you see someone you like, you have two choices, either sit there like a pleb and let someone else catch their eye, or walk over and get chatting. Taking initiative is attractive. The first few words don’t have to be anything witty or genius, just a simple, ‘how are you?’ or ‘who do you know at the party?’ can open up a whole convo.
Use body language
You may read a lot about body language on KISS but we promise, it’s not a total myth. Holding yourself with confidence can help to give a great first impression. Nod when the conversation is interesting, smile when you want to encourage the chat to keep going, and point your body towards the person you’re interested in to show them then you’re giving them your full attention. Don’t be too over-eager of course, but friendliness goes a long way in getting to know someone you like.
Look into their eyes
Never underestimate the power of eye contact. You can literally make him go weak at the knees with a look that lingers just a tiny bit longer than usual. Now, we’re not talking staring competitions, so do go easy! All you need is a sign that you’re interested and that he’s not going to make a fool out of himself by asking to add you on Snapchat. If you give him your attention and eye contact during a casual chat, you can send that signal that you’d be happy for this to go a little further.
There is nothing more magnetic than a genuine smile, and if you’re having fun you’re going to be glowing, which will make you irresistible. Being a great flirt is less about technique and so much more about acting natural. If you act how you feel – and you like him – you’ll be enjoying his company anyway and you’ll become more chatty and smiley and it will all go to plan. Just remember, you’ve got nothing to lose!